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Failure to Launcher

Failure to Launcher

Hi Cocoa Drops! Do you know…. or are you…. a failure to launcher? LOL. Let me explain.

I was speaking with a guy one day and I asked him when did his kids leave the nest. I have two youngins and I just want to know what I have ahead of me. Will they leave or stay with me until I go to the nursing home? LOL. The guy commented that 3 of his 4 left the nest but that his last son was a failure to launcher. Have you ever heard something so funny that you laugh out loud without notice? That’s exactly what I did when he said this because this was just that funny to me. Failure to launcher??????? LMAO. This pretty much means, he didn’t take off like he was supposed to and he’s still at home living off of him and his wife. LOL. In my family that pretty much means that somebody ain’t about nothing and ain’t gone be nothing but is this true for the rest of someone’s life?

This subject came up with my family again tonight and I was like, who says you failed to launch? There are different launch pads and launch dates. LOL. No, seriously, there’s no set time that you have to have done something. Society is really bad about that. You fail to launch if you don’t get your license at 16. You fail to launch if you don’t get a car after you get your license. You fail to launch if you don’t go straight to college after high school. You fail to launch if you don’t go straight to grad school out of undergrad. You fail to launch if you don’t get engaged in college or married before 30. You fail to launch if you don’t have kids by a certain age. The list goes on and on. You fail to launch if you’re a virgin at 15, if you don’t try weed in middle school or if your first tattoo is after college. Ok, those are just jokes but you get my drift.

I have my own launch pads at different intervals of life. I take off when I want to and make my own rules. The only time in my eyes that you can fail to launch is if you’ve gone to glory. Until then, you need to find your own day to take off for your own goals as they may come in life. As clichĂ© as it may be, it’s never, ever, ever too late to do anything. You waste time thinking about it, just make a plan to achieve it and be done. Why would you say it’s too late to go back to school? If you plan on living those years, you can go back to school. I got my MBA in 2 years working full-time and with 2 kids!!!!!!!!!! You can change your life over and over through education or training in a different field. People get lazy and let too many excuses get in their way. Get up and change your life if you want something different. It’s all up to you on when you launch!

What are your thoughts on the matter???

Kicking life to you,
Phee 🙂

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Random Sips

 

NOOICE!

This post is for my favorite Cocoa Drop, KT.

We are silly as all get out and started using this word a lot as of late to signify when we have spoiled something for the other person like when I accidentally told her that Chekura died on Book of Negroes before she saw it….NOOICE! She accidentally told me that Stephen was back on Scandal before I saw it yesterday…..NOOICE!

Other ways that YOU can use this word are below…

1. Someone gets in front of you and starts driving slow as hell…..NOOICE!
2. You come home with food but everybody already ate…..NOOICE!
3. You get your hair done up and it rains…..NOOICE!
4. You get your car waxed and shined up and it rains…..NOOICE!
5. The movie you’ve been dying to see is sold out……NOOICE!
6. You have a fresh pedicure but your baby steps on your big toe and messes it up……NOOICE!

This is the way we’ve been using the word but share with us your way. NOOICE!

🙂 Phee
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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

Mayweather and Pacquiao 5.2.2015

Mayweather and Pacquiao 5.2.2015

Mayweather and Pacquiao have finally settled their purse differences and scheduled a fight date at the MGM Grand on May 2nd. Within 15 minutes of the announcement, the rooms were sold out for as high as $615 a night. Oh yeah, the purse thing…these jokers will be paid $100 million vs. $60 million. Wow. Of course, Mayweather is getting the higher purse.

Anyway, here’s an article about the fight.

http://ftw.usatoday.com/2015/02/the-mgm-grand-sold-out-the-mayweather-pacquiao-fight-in-15-minutes

I’ll probably be watching on Livestream or maybe not. It’s not that serious for me to pay to watch.

KT

 
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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Sports Sips

 

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Speak Life…

Speak Life…

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Inspirational Sips, Random Sips

 

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Key and Peele Gay Marriage Legalized

In light of Alabama coming aboard with gay marriage, I thought about this skit from Key and Peele.

I love them and they really did their thing on this skit.

🙂 Phee

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Random Sips

 

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What is Love?

What is Love?

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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Random Sips, Relationship Sips

 

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Morning Inspiration

Morning Inspiration

Bio courtesy of brittanica.com

Paul R. Williams, in full Paul Revere Williams   (born February 18, 1894, Los Angeles, California, U.S.—died January 23, 1980, Los Angeles), American architect noted for his mastery of a variety of styles and building types and for his influence on the architectural landscape of southern California. In more than 3,000 buildings over the course of five decades, mostly in and around Los Angeles, he introduced a sense of casual elegance that came to define the region’s architecture. His work became so popular with Hollywood royalty that he was known as the “architect to the stars.”

Williams, the second of two children, was born shortly after his parents moved to Los Angeles from Memphis, Tennessee. Both his parents died by the time he was four years old, and Williams was reared by a family friend; his brother lived with a different family. Because his foster mother quickly recognized his talent, Williams received a solid education and followed his dream to become an architect, though there were few African American architects at the time.

His architectural aspirations remained uppermost in his thoughts. He attended the Los Angeles atelier of the Beaux-Arts Institute of Design (1913–16) and was certified as an architect in 1915. While attending (1916–19) a program for architectural engineering at the University of Southern California, he took a series of low-paying jobs at several architectural firms to learn as much as he could. He learned about landscape architecture while working with Wilbur D. Cook and got his first taste of designing on a palatial scale at the firm of Reginald D. Johnson. From 1920 to 1922 he worked for John C. Austin (with whom he later collaborated), turning his attention to designs for large public buildings.

In 1921 Williams received a license to practice architecture in California and accepted his first commission—from a white former high-school classmate, Louis Cass. A year later, at age 28, Williams founded his own business, Paul R. Williams and Associates, and in 1923 he became the first African American member of the American Institute of Architects. He later was licensed to practice in Washington, D.C. (1936), New York (1948), Tennessee (1960), and Nevada (1964). His designs for suburban and country estates incorporated Mediterranean, Spanish Revival, and English Tudor themes, a blend of styles that strongly appealed to California residents at mid-century. No matter what their stylistic elements, his houses were impeccably designed down to the smallest detail, and they were airy, sun-filled, and graceful.

As Williams’s reputation grew, he received commissions to design houses for such Hollywood stars as Lon Chaney, Lucille Ball, Frank Sinatra, Bill (“Bojangles”) Robinson, Barbara Stanwyck, Cary Grant, Humphrey Bogart and Lauren Bacall, and Anthony Quinn. Among his many remarkable buildings are the opulent Saks Fifth Avenue building in Beverly Hills and the flying saucer–shaped Theme Building at the Los Angeles International Airport (as codesigner). He also oversaw additions to the Beverly Hills Hotel in the 1950s. In addition to stores, public housing, hotels, and restaurants, he designed showrooms, churches, and schools.

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After 1950, when Modernism and its most-predominant architectural manifestation, the International Style, began to hold sway, Williams was seen as an architect of traditional (that is, old-fashioned) designs. His gift for accommodating eclectic tastes while obeying sound design principles was seen as a drawback. But public taste eventually came full circle, and Williams-designed homes, especially, were again in demand in the early 21st century.

Williams wrote a number of articles, notably “I Am a Negro” (1937) for The American Magazine, and two books, The Small Home of Tomorrow (1945) and New Homes for Today (1946). In 1953 he was awarded the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People’s Spingarn Medal. Many awards and honours followed, both during and after his lifetime.

 
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Posted by on February 20, 2015 in Inspirational Sips

 

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Morning Inspiration

Morning Inspiration

Bio courtesy of legendsofamerica.com

When Congress passed an act authorizing the establishment of the first all Black units of the military, later to become known as “Buffalo Soldiers,” Cathay Williams, a former slave, joined the Army. At that time, women were not allowed to serve as soldiers so Williams posed as a man, calling herself William Cathay.

Williams was born into slavery in Independence, Missouri in 1842. She worked as a house slave for William Johnson, a wealthy planter in Jefferson City, Missouri until his death. Shortly after the Civil War broke out she was freed by Union soldiers and soon went to work for the Federal Army as a paid servant. While working in this capacity, she served Colonel Thomas Hart Benton while he was in Little Rock, Arkansas as well as General Philip Sheridan and his staff, experiencing military life first hand. Sheridan brought her with him to Washington to serve as a cook and laundress.

While traveling with them, she witnessed the Shenandoah Valley raids in Virginia, and afterwards continued to travel with them to Iowa, St. Louis, New Orleans, Savannah, and Macon.

When the war was over, Williams wanted to maintain her financial independence and in November 1866, she enlisted as William Cathay in the 38th U.S. Infantry, Company A in St. Louis, Missouri. At that time, only a cursory medical examination was required and she was quickly found to be fit for duty. There were only two people that knew her true identify – a cousin and a friend, who faithfully kept her secret. She informed her recruiting officer that she was a 22-year-old cook. He described her as 5′ 9″, with black eyes, black hair and black complexion.

On February 13, 1867, Williams was sent to Jefferson Barracks, Missouri and a few months later, in April, the troops marched to Fort Riley, Kansas. By June, they were on the march again, this time to Fort Harker, Kansas, and the next month, on to Fort Union, New Mexico, more than 500 miles away. On September 7, the regiment moved on to Fort Cummings, New Mexico, arriving on October 1st. They were stationed there for eight months, protecting miners and traveling immigrants from Apache attack. While she was there, a brief mutiny broke out in December, 1867 when a camp follower was expelled for stealing money. Several men were brought up on charges or jailed, but Williams was not among them.

It did however, take a toll on her and seemingly her health was suffering, as she was recorded as being in four different hospitals on five separate occasions. Amazingly, during these various hospitalizations, it was never discovered that she was female.

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Fort Bayard, New MexicoOn June 6, 1868 the company marched once again, this time to Fort Bayard, New Mexico. By this time Williams longed to be quit of the army and, on July 13, she was admitted into Fort Bayard hospital, this time diagnosed with neuralgia – a catch-all term for any acute, intermittent pain caused by a nerve.

It was during this hospitalization that it was finally discovered that she was a woman. On October 14, 1868, William Cathey and was discharged at Fort Bayard with a certificate of disability, which included statements from the captain of her company and the post’s assistant surgeon. The captain stated that Williams had been under his command since May 20, 1867 “… and has been since feeble both physically and mentally, and much of the time quite unfit for duty. The origin of his infirmities is unknown to me.” The surgeon stated that Cathey was of “…a feeble habit. He is continually on sick report without benefit. He is unable to do military duty…. This condition dates prior to enlistment.”

Over her two year stint Williams participated in regular garrison duties but there is no record that she ever saw direct combat while she was enlisted. Though seemingly not well regarded by her commanding officer, she was honorably discharged with the legacy of being the first and only female Buffalo Soldier to serve.

Afterwards, she worked as a cook for a colonel at Fort Union, New Mexico in 1869 and 1870. She then moved on to Pueblo, Colorado, where she worked as a laundress before permanently settling in Trinidad, Colorado in 1872. There, she made her living as a laundress and part-time nurse. Some years later, her failing health arose again when she was hospitalized in early 1890, for nearly a year and a half. By the time she left the hospital, she was completely without funds and in June, 1891 filed for a pension from the U.S. Army. Her application claimed that she was suffering deafness, rheumatism and neuralgia, all of which she had contracted while in the army.

However, after various doctor’s exams and investigation, the Pension Bureau rejected her claim on medical grounds, stating that no disability existed. Further, they found that her discharge certificate indicated her feeble condition pre-dated enlistment and was not due to service. Lastly, and most obviously, her service in the Army was not legal, and any type of pension, disability or otherwise, was denied.

What happened to Cathay Williams afterwards is unknown, but it appears that she may have died sometime between 1892 and 1900 as her name no longer appeared on Census rolls from 1900.

 
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Posted by on February 19, 2015 in Inspirational Sips

 

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Just Don’t Do It

Just Don’t Do It
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Posted by on February 18, 2015 in Random Sips, Relationship Sips

 

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Hair Crush

Hair Crush
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Mother/Daughter Puffs! Too cute.

KT

 
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Posted by on February 18, 2015 in Naturally Me Sips

 

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