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Monthly Archives: January 2015
Watch “Spread The Love! Sweet 16 Anniversary Part 2” on YouTube
I absolutely love all of their videos! They are so cute and have fun together. How sweet! Enjoy! #reallove
Men vs. Women and these wack ass double standards
This really annoys the hell out of me. Especially when it comes to the sex thing. A man will call a woman a ho for sleeping with him, but he will turn around and sleep with two more women that same week and he will be a player. Straight bullshit.
If a woman is confident about her sexuality, her sensuality, and not afraid to speak about them she is looked upon as a slut and over-sexed. Then if a woman meets a guy and decides to give up the draws, he looks at her as a piece of ass. Really? No, she was horny, wanted some “D” and got the D.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating that men and women should be screwing like rabbits, but if a woman chooses to do so, she shouldn’t be referred to as a ho.
What exactly is a ho anyway? In case you didn’t know, it’s slang for whore. A whore is a paid for providing services of a sexual nature. Male or female. That is the oldest profession that ain’t going anywhere. Sometimes you think they may have it right? Everybody else is boning for free. Nah, that leaves too much control for the buyer. No, thank you.
Then there is the married couple. How many husbands have cheated on their wives and are forgiven for their “little” indiscretion, but as soon as the wife cheats or thinks about cheating he calls her a slut, wants to whoop her ass, or wants to leave. Now who is weak? Men can’t take the same treatment at all.
A woman who has the attitude of the meme below is still considered taboo in most circles. She better not speak about it. She better not speak about about wanting the cocoa stick period. She watches porn? Ho. She buys toys? Ho. She masturbates? Ho. She craves sex more than her dude? Ho. That’s stinking thinking right there. It’s unfair.
I hope someday we can be looked upon as equals, but until then I will continue to not give two shits about their opinions and live my life as I see fit. Being uninhibited sexually can be a freeing thing. Some people should try it. They’d have less medical issues. 😉
This is just one wack ass double standard, what are some others that you are familiar with? We’d love to hear from you. 🙂
KT
Exploring Something New
After having sex with the same person for years, you start realizing you’ve developed some boring patterns in your sex life. It’s with recognizing the signals if you will be having sex that night, how freaky it’s going to be, will lights stay on, will your mate make it last forever and ever like Keith Sweat sang about in the 90’s, etc… You go into it with the same expectations and sometime the same old moves.
Sodahead.com
Sometimes in our relationships we forget about the passionate ways we used to make love to one another. The way we used to touch, kiss, rub, lick, and hold each other. Also, the way just looking into each other’s eyes made you believe every promise they spoke to you. So what do we do to rekindle that fire? How much or how little you have to do will depend on your mate and your current emotional relationship.
Fullfiguredever.com
As we know men are visually stimulated, so for some men all you need to do is buy some sexy lingerie and it’s on like popcorn. As a matter of fact, buy some anyway. My friends used to laugh at me because I’d search eBay for new lingerie. Look, I’m cheap and they were selling them for under $5 internationally. Now, when you’re a plus size girl you have to be careful not to purchase Asian sizes, but I still have all of my pieces to date. Lol. The way it feels against your skin and how sexy it makes you feel is amazing.
Womenshealthmag
Try new positions. I’m that chick that gets bored very quickly. So, I look for new positions all the time. You think you know them all, but every now and then you find something new. Whether you Google it, view porn, read a book, just find a way to get new info. Do that thing you only do on birthdays and anniversaries more often. I’m sure he’d enjoy it.
Womenshealthmag
Introduce toys. Some guys are completely turned off and/or intimidated by toys. So, you have to trick them into it. Typically if you give them some amazing head or drop that new position on them, they will let you do whatever you want with that cocoa stick. 😉 They just may like it.
Ronjo.com
Role-playing. You can do so much with this one. Trusty eBay can help you with props and costumes for the low. It can be a lot of fun. Get crazy and over the top with your ideas. Think about what he would like and even prepare a little striptease. Make it a surprise. Try to stay in character, but if he grabs your booty and places you on his lap just roll with it. Lol
Fun times. Cocoa Drops, only you know what your dude will respond to so don’t be afraid to go all out. Exude confidence. Know that you are sexy. And use that sexiness to blow your man’s mind!
Cocoa Drops, tell us what you would do or have done to rekindle the fire?
KT
Love & Hip Hop 1.26.15 Episode
Well, well, well this show sure does know how to take you through so many emotions. Between Chrissy’s weird & forced looking cries and Amina being a wife and the other woman to the same man at the same damn time is pretty crazy. There were several things that happened in this latest episode.
Peter Gunz came clean to Amina about his business trip. Whaaat? The tin man has a heart?! I’ve never called a guy this before, but this dude is a douche bag. During his wife’s 40th week of pregnancy, he takes his most recent baby mama and their two kids on a vacation to Barbados. Amina is upset and says she is done, but we all know how that ends for them. Now I know baby mama, Tara wants to keep a facade about her “family unit” for the kids, but come on now. That is foul. Someone please shake her and remind her that he was never her husband and she needs to tell her kids that their daddy loves them, but he now has a wife and will not be with them everyday anymore. She’s getting on my nerves harboring all this resentment. She needs to release that stress and count her blessings that she has been delivered her from that 13 year curse. Oh no,Tara only sees one thing. Peter was stolen. Idiot. She wants his wife, Amina to continuously feel bad about breaking up her “family.” I appreciate Amina calling her out about being a side chick herself previously. But, of course for Tara her situation was different. I wouldn’t feel bad anymore either Amina. Plus, you didn’t really win anything. He was willing to leave you and place you as the baby mama of his 9th child if Tara would let him in just like that. Ugh. I do not like him.
Chrissy stopped crying. Now, she’s mad as hell and not going to take it anymore! Lol. So, Chrissy previously told her married boyfriend who recently moved in with her that she wanted a baby and she hasn’t taken her birth control for 3 weeks. He spazzed out rather calmly on her about that. I mean, really? What in the hell did she expect? Then she did this weird crying thing she does. It’s scary and a must-see. Lol. So, the aftermath ended with her man Chink talking to Rich Dollaz and coming to the conclusion that he wants to make things right with his lady. Chrissy comes to the studio with a chips on her shoulders (I know y’all thought those were shoulder pads. Nope!) and he doesn’t really get to speak on his feelings about her because she is over talking him. She is very stoned-faced and wants to know what he meant by saying “if” he divorces his wife instead of “when” during their previous argument. The answer really didn’t matter. Just know they broke up and she told him to have a nice life. Lol.
Yandy and Mendecees have a blended family issue. Mendecees and his baby mama, Samantha are at odds about the time each should spend with Jr. She wants him to become a weekend daddy and set some things up in the courts. He blames her for not being around during Jr.’s younger years and doesn’t feel she is entitled to have an opinion about his custody. Yandy does what she does best and tries to help resolve the issue by having a meeting to set up a meeting. Mendecees and Samantha meet up and go in on one another for a minute and she tells him about setting up things with the court and how they would be on her side. He tells her no they wouldn’t because if they ask Jr., he’ll tell them who has been there. Oooohhh. Then it seems to shift when he reminds her that because of the case he currently has and the time he’s facing, he wants to spend as much time with him as he can. This Samantha is looking a little sheisty at the moment to me, but I hope they work all that out.
Delusional and self-involved Erica makes an ass out of herself. Again. So, both of Erica’s exes are now working together in business. Cyn wants to sing a song about her brother’s suicide and give the proceeds to charity and in exchange Rich asked her to be the face of his new liquor. Somehow, Erica believes that their business deals are all about her. She absolutely refuses to believe otherwise. She shows up to Rich’s liquor debut party just to be an ass. Gets drunk, says some dumb stuff, proceeds to leave and tries to walk out through the mirror. Really? So, classy. Cyn reaches out to her afterwards to say let’s just move on, but Erica is stuck on the fact Cyn is talking to her friends and she needs to stop. This isn’t high school. Sheesh. Anyway, Erica is obviously that person who wants to pretend she isn’t hurt and has no feelings then goes home, looks in the mirror and cries. All of that can be resolved if you just be genuine.
Final thought: Viel Glück! Or Good Luck on ending things with Peter, Amina. I hope you get on the plane with your sister and go back to Germany with your baby.
KT
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